Thursday, January 20
All unresolved conflicts Destroy
January 20, 2011
Serge, I have read the whole of your email to me, which is about another different conflict.
I am now more aware of this unresolved conflict between the two persons and "the economic vessel" they are partners in. As an experienced observer of conflicts I can say that unresolved conflicts destroy the willingness to Cooperate. A life time of experience in organizational development (OD) has also proved to me that unresolved conflicts between two people will destroy the wealth of both parties; heaping uncomfortabe costs upon the stakeholders, This destruction of wealth in your economic unit "The HUT" upsets the members (members being the borders )of that unit. It costs them time and money and disrupts their precious environment. You and they are stakeholders. I am reminded of President Kennedys reference to unresolved conflict, when he quoted from Dante's Inferno “the hottest places in Hell are reserved for those who in times of crisis, choose to remain indifferent. More wisdom can be found in this children short story: "Humpty Dumpty sat on the wall and had a great fall...” Conflicts in business get the immediate attention of the personnel departments, because conflicts destroy the wealth very quickly indeed. Business cannot aford these losses. The members of the vessel have a very big stake. ("Conflicts in Courts are even more disastrous because they take forever to resolve; as in my life now.") The members may not be shareholders but they are in“this economic vessel" and hence they have a moral obligation to prevent the vessel from going down. They cannot remain indifferent. For a few weeks now I have observed the turmoil in your life, as you have watched the vessel going down. It was a precious vessel and it has been destroyed; this is a tragedy. It could have been avoided. What was done by the stakeholders to save it? You and I Serge have seen "precious vessels" (we were in) go down and we have suffered enormous damage. In my opinion the stakeholders in this situation chose to abandon the ship. A full and transparent resolution to the conflict could have resolved the conflict and saved the vessel for all. The future will repeat the past; beware! Vessels, like FAMILY units, are precious investments. They are a “Citizens Castle.” The exception would be in a Marxist State. Serge, I hope this, my short view of your situation, is useful for you.
Serge, I have read the whole of your email to me, which is about another different conflict.
I am now more aware of this unresolved conflict between the two persons and "the economic vessel" they are partners in. As an experienced observer of conflicts I can say that unresolved conflicts destroy the willingness to Cooperate. A life time of experience in organizational development (OD) has also proved to me that unresolved conflicts between two people will destroy the wealth of both parties; heaping uncomfortabe costs upon the stakeholders, This destruction of wealth in your economic unit "The HUT" upsets the members (members being the borders )of that unit. It costs them time and money and disrupts their precious environment. You and they are stakeholders. I am reminded of President Kennedys reference to unresolved conflict, when he quoted from Dante's Inferno “the hottest places in Hell are reserved for those who in times of crisis, choose to remain indifferent. More wisdom can be found in this children short story: "Humpty Dumpty sat on the wall and had a great fall...” Conflicts in business get the immediate attention of the personnel departments, because conflicts destroy the wealth very quickly indeed. Business cannot aford these losses. The members of the vessel have a very big stake. ("Conflicts in Courts are even more disastrous because they take forever to resolve; as in my life now.") The members may not be shareholders but they are in“this economic vessel" and hence they have a moral obligation to prevent the vessel from going down. They cannot remain indifferent. For a few weeks now I have observed the turmoil in your life, as you have watched the vessel going down. It was a precious vessel and it has been destroyed; this is a tragedy. It could have been avoided. What was done by the stakeholders to save it? You and I Serge have seen "precious vessels" (we were in) go down and we have suffered enormous damage. In my opinion the stakeholders in this situation chose to abandon the ship. A full and transparent resolution to the conflict could have resolved the conflict and saved the vessel for all. The future will repeat the past; beware! Vessels, like FAMILY units, are precious investments. They are a “Citizens Castle.” The exception would be in a Marxist State. Serge, I hope this, my short view of your situation, is useful for you.
Friday, January 14
Thursday, January 13
Good Luck with changing minds
Don This is your room-mate Victor Bolanos; keep up the work to get justice for me and others like me. I will never forget the harm she did to me.
I feel your pain, as I read your story
From: vroth@comcast.net
Sent: Friday, December 04, 2009 3:21 PM
To: donwesley1933@live.com
Subject: Re: I don't when or where to start! It has been a journey which hasn't been pleasant.
I feel your pain, as I read your story. The first I heard from you, was yesterday, Dec. 3rd.
Try and give me a phone number, so we can chat. I admire your strength in these troubling
and challenging times. Maureen's father had an English expression to keep going on, and it
was''box on.'' Box on, buddy. Vicxx
----- Original Message -----
From: donwesley1933@live.com
To: "Victor Roth"
Sent: Thursday, December 3, 2009 8:38:13 PM GMT -08:00 US/Canada Pacific
Subject: I don't when or where to start! It has been a journey which hasn't been pleasant.
You can help by telling me when you last heard from me. I just got this computer a few days ago; I have
been without my old one for several months. I will then know where to begin my telling my story. It has
been very difficult time for me.
I spent several weeks living in my car, with very little money and temperatures reaching minus 7 degrees
centigrade. Most of my time has been in Ontario; around Ottawa. I did this to avoid unlawful arrest in
Quebec.
Some of the time I was given shelter in temples and two weeks ago a former military officer (my age) paid
for my my stay in a motel. I now receive the federal supplement to my old age security payment. I also
received a back payments due to me since last march. My experiences have been very interesting and very
helpful in advancing my own growth.
My health has never been better and I have made several new friendships with exceptional people.
As for Denise, she has delivered the maximum of evil doings, just as the text-book prognosis said would
happen. It is difficult to believe.
I believe that I will eventually be returned to my home. The court systems with regard to divorce is
devastating families every day, making many men homeless. Both the Ottawa police and the RCMP, clearly
see the corruption that is centered around the two lawyers in every case who want to sell the homes; and
the Judges produce un-conscionable judgments.
I going to stop at this point; just to prevent myself from poisoning my thoughts.
I am happy to be able to write to you again.
Don