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I am pleased to contribute this story, for the betterment of our society. My wife's parents, raised a large family. Their family as a whole is very happy and successful. All are well educated and contributed to their community beautifully. My wife's rage, was deeply repressed for many years. She was very popular and active in our local Christian Church, as a Eucharistic Minister.
Some other causal factors, in addition to her father’s anger in those early years, maybe involved. The community culture and history, reveals that Mothers were in charge with Fathers subordinate, as servers and protectors. My wife told me that her Grandmother was a huge woman who frightened her. The area was north of Montreal [Canada] French speaking and Catholic. Her mother was also clearly the dominant parent, but also very kind, and very quick to take charge. Many families also had Native Indian blood lines.
In my culture, English and Protestant, the Father was the server/protector and head of the family and the Mothers managed the home. The Marriage Contract made the choice, one or the other.
The choice was the "English - Protestant - Culture."
