Wednesday, November 30

Our story is about “No Crime and all the Punishment” Dostoevsky ?

Thank you for your polite reply, [My friend, to remain anonymous]

None of the links of David Jeremiah's daily thought, respond, without money!

We are excruciatingly lonely, and the horrible realization for me is “no money, no honey!
And even if the “Thoughts” were honey, they don’t solve the problem.

We are living in a truly very cruel world. I am certain my wife hurts the same way, but the court system incarcerates us separately while taking our wealth away.
That's what the court sells and it is fraud.

I am a “victim of the crime of elder abuse” by the very society I live in and the reality is, that one is required to suffer alone.

I say
"We need to suffer aloud as a
Proud and Precious Collectivity!"

Months ago I went to the RCMP in Ottawa with my “criminal complaint” and they did call my son, Steven, who is a psychiatrist, who told them they had to sell my home. It was B-S. They didn't have to sell my home. We were self sufficient with wealth enough and it was taken from me.
The courts created the suffering! This is the message that needs to be propagated.

If Christ were here today he would be screaming out the truth on TV and TED. 

That is what I am working to do, every single day, my friend.

Our society owns the system which delivers the injustice, which in turn charges the victims for the service until he is broke and useless to society.

That is the reality and every one turns away. I am yesterdays leper!

[My friend, to remain anonymous], I am not alone; this is every man's story who is trapped in the evil system of court injustice.

Our story is about
“No Crime and all the Punishment”
It is Rome’s Coliseum!

My friend, I am appealing to your empathy and your sense of man-made suffering. What say you?

Thursday, November 24

How can there be “due process” if the spouse who wants to save the marriage always loses? That is unjust.

Divorce imposes a huge human cost, especially on children. Every divorce is the destruction of a small civilization. Children of divorce are three times as likely as those from intact homes to be expelled from school or to have a baby out of wedlock as a teenager, six times as apt to live in poverty and are much more likely to be incarcerated according to the Institute for American Values.

However, statistics do not reveal the pain of divorce, which is always tragic for children. Michael Reagan, the adopted son of Ronald Reagan and Jane Wyman, wrote of his parents’ divorce:

“Divorce is where two adults take everything that matters to a child – the child’s home, family, security, and sense of being loved and protected – and they smash it all up, leave it in ruins on the floor, then walk out and leave the child to clean up the mess.”

Ironically, his father, as Governor of California, signed America’s first No Fault Divorce Law four decades ago. It swept the country in the early 1970's. Divorces had alreadydoubled in the 1960s, but soared after No Fault from 639,000 in 1969 to 1,036,000 by 1975.

President Reagan later told Michael that his signing the first No Fault Divorce Law was his “greatest regret” in public life.

Before Reagan signed the law, to get a divorce one spouse had to prove the other was guilty of a major “fault” such as adultery or physical abuse. If there was no alleged fault and both wanted the divorce, one might accuse the other of adultery while a spouse remained silent, This collusion was denounced by feminists and attorneys. “No Fault” was considered a reform, because no fault had to be alleged to get a divorce. One person simply asserted the marriage had “irreconcilable differences,” and always got it.

However, as No Fault swept the nation, what was not adequately considered was that the divorce is
opposed in four out of five cases by the other spouse. What was entered into by two people voluntarily is being terminated by one spouse acting unilaterally. No Fault Divorce actually violates the Constitution. The 5th and 14th Amendments guarantee that “no person be deprived of life, liberty or property without due process of law.” How can there be “due process” if the spouse who wants to save the marriage always loses? That is unjust.

The system is fairer in Britain and France. If one spouse wants a No Fault Divorce, and it is opposed by a mate, the couple must live apart five years in Britain or six years in France. That allows much time for reconciliation. However, 32 states have no waiting period, allowing no time for reconciliation. No wonder our divorce rate is three times higher.

There are economic consequences to these numbers. On average, each divorce involves one child, which makes that family eligible for welfare, Medicaid, food stamps and many other subsidies. The Heritage Foundation estimates that each divorce costs taxpayers $20,000, or $20 billion a year with a million divorces annually. Each of the 1.7 million unwed births cost another $20,000 each or $34 billion.
Most states are facing yawning budget deficits for the fourth year in a row. According to the Center on

Budget and Policy Priorities, state budget gaps total $112 billion for fiscal year 2012. Why? The recession is one reason. However, America’s high divorce rate and the failure of millions to marry are the driving force behind soaring state and federal deficits.

An anti-marriage bias lies behind\these trends. State law – such as No Fault Divorce - promotes divorce. A Parental Divorce Reduction Act, being considered by 13 states, would require a year’s waiting period before any divorce becomes final. Also, couples would be required to take Pre-filing classes to learn the impact of divorce on both children and adults. And they would attend Marriage Education classes to learn how to resolve conflict amicably. That’s a double strategy to reduce divorce.

Similarly, states discourage marriage. State law assumes an unmarried mother of a child is a single parent needing big subsidies. However, in more than half the cases, she is cohabiting with the father, and has the benefit of his income as if she were married. In effect, the state is subsidizing couples to cohabit, rather than to marry. And if a cohabiting couple marries, they lose most subsidies. No wonder the marriage rate has plunged 31% in only 19 years.
It is time for states to promote and preserve marriage – not divorce and cohabitation.

Mike McManus is President of Marriage Savers.
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Saturday, November 19

He said to me "divorce after 30-40 years of marriage is insanity".

Dear Diary

A song from the heart - Ne me quitte pas    
Jacques Brel-Ne me quitte pas (Eng. Subtitles)

On my travels today I met very remarkable individual; 
Jean-Marie is French Canadian and he showed me his intelligence in a splendid manner. He has the same wife and has raised many children and has seen the injustice of the courts as it has related to his sons. More to the point however is that he said “women have no heart, when it comes to hurting their own husbands.” He laughed when he said this, but quickly returned to say he was absolutely serious! We talked for over a hour about divorce. He said to me "divorce after 30-40 years of marriage is insanity".

I had no trouble agreeing with him; this has been my experience as well. We are both the same age.

Don [From The Silent Generation -  1930's]

The increase in divorce rates [over-60s] has been described as 'a major social revolution'

"Britain is seeing a boom in silver-separations".

"They feel they have been left high and dry in circumstances they had never anticipated and are very unhappy. It is a real tragedy".

Pensioners are the only age group where the divorce rate is rising.
The increase in divorce rates among the over-60s has been described as "a major social revolution"
The latest figures, for 2009, reveal that more than 11,500 over-60s were granted a divorce – up 4 per cent in two years.
This contrasts with a fall in the divorce rate for all age groups of more than 11 per cent.
We are really witnessing a major social revolution, with older generations no longer behaving in the traditional manner.
They realise there is still time for new horizons and new perspectives. However, it can be very difficult for children to see their older parents splitting up and it is a worry when family units break up.
"I’ve had letters from older divorcees who were bewildered by what had suddenly happened and had experienced terrible loneliness' - Esther Rantzen"
TV presenter and journalist Esther Rantzen said she had been contacted by people who had divorced
late in life and suffered terrible loneliness.

But there are also cases when one partner desperately wanted to stay married end up unexpectedly on their own at a very vulnerable time in their lives.
"I’ve had letters from older divorcees who were bewildered by what had suddenly happened and had experienced terrible loneliness".

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Monday, November 14

I hope this conversation will help humanity to come to the aid of victims of “man-made disasters.”

2 hours ago: Thank you Debra for your precious thoughts.

I have had enormous unstopped growth over the years and have used my empathy and energy to help others. My separation however was not a positive factor for my comfort level. I slept in my car in freezing weather for several months.

My financial plan and wealth was more than adequate to live out a very good life in my home together with my wife. Now my comfort level is really restrained and filled with continuing uncertainties in dealing with new flows of people around me.

However, the deceptions of my soul-mate was not something I had expected, but it was contemplated in our marriage contract. The Court System took me by surprise! This system allows and overlooks the unconscionable tactics of lawyers who succeeded in separating me from my source of wealth. A story comparable to the Book of Job!

Without wealth and cash for another lawyer, I was abused by the power of the Court Orders, not withstanding a Court Judgement which was issued to keep me in my home. I escaped the horror of Quebec and came to Ontario. One of my sons is a psychiatrist and I am well educated in matters of personal psychology; I feel no need for a counsellor.

We are forced by situations to live through them; alternatives are limited. Who knows what tomorrow will reveal; a mystery. I miss the comfort of a my soul-mate; the touch and empathy of closeness. I dread the loneliness of day and night and find myself withdrawing from the noise of people around me, “who don’t understand victims.”

I was drawn into this conversation by the vivid words of Cliff. I hope this conversation will help humanity to come to the aid of victims of “man-made disasters.” People think you get the justice you deserve in courts; not true. You get injustice and the price they charge is equal to your wealth.

Debra, I sense your hug and hope for the victims like me.