Wilful fraud and deliberate crime !

Hi and welcome to this Inn which I created using Google Tools. My Name is Don Wesley ...

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Dear Serge,

I was thinking about marriage commitments and the importance of family in society during our time here on earth and I perused my copy of Wilder Penfield’s book ‘Man and his Family.’

Penfield wrote this book at the request of Governor General Georges P. Vanier.

One sentence stood out this morning and I quote: “I have been impressed by the fact that the stern integrity of our fathers has been gradually weakened, and in many cases has entirely disappeared. Occupations and pleasures which in their days, would have been regarded as wrong are without hesitation indulged in. In business, profit is the first consideration, and little thought is given to the moral character of the transactions.
Indeed, wilful fraud and deliberate crime have been frequently discovered and exposed.”

These words were written May 28, 1925 by Josiah Wood. He was a member of the Canadian Senate.

Penfield’s book was published in 1967.
Find here: ----------- http://innjustice.blogspot.com/2011/01/many-links.html

At this moment I realize that I am one of those stern fathers who is alive and kicking and committed to

‘INN-JUSTICE.’Here I am now, saying we need to expose the crime being commited within the walls of our Courts.I am now wondering what you may have been able to do to save your marriage looking back from todays  viewpoint. I need a few words from you Serge.

Until soon,
Aware of and caring about you and all of humanity
Don

Divorce Death Threat to Don Wesley - July 2009

July 2009

A Personal Death Threat to me was frightening.
Killing Nicky my Dog saddened me.

Two days later I was evicted from my Own Home.

For a Divorce!

For more details go to the following links

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donwesley1933@live.com

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“ It was he who evicted me.” Don, March 30, 2011. New and revised May 10, 2014.

Today is October 4, 2015

And Francynes' reply is still a lie.

www.google.com/+donwesley

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“ It was he who evicted me.”  say Don,  March 30, 2011.
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From: Don Wesley

To: Vic Roth

Vic, I believe my reply to Francyne is tricky.

Will it change things and become effective I can’t be certain!  I refer to the following line: “

 It was he who evicted me.”

Don

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“ It was he who evicted me.”  say Don,  March 30, 2011.
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From: Don Wesley

Sent: Tuesday, March 29, 2011 3:40 PM

To: Denise Wesley

Subject: REPLY to your email

Francyne.

Thank you for letting me know the status of the case.  I will follow through with your idea for dealing with my
present lawyer. I did make a complaint to the Bar about his behaviour, shortly after being evicted from my home. I
was advised to do so. It was he who evicted me.
I am sorry that you feel my messages are harassment, it is not my intention. I am very lonely being separated from
Denise, and I was motivated to write. Except for a final chapter, a book is completed;  about the devastation that
divorce creates within families; I am not alone. When I write it is sometimes to my diary and other times to my
wife Denise. I hope you understand.
Knowing that you feel uncomfortable, I will cease sending any essays (messages) to you. I have always known that she
does not get messages which I have sent to her, using this address; you told me so months ago.
I am not sure about how to cease dealing with my present lawyers, perhaps you could elaborate a little more than you have. I will then send them an email with a copy to Me Adelia Ferreira as you have directed, to accelerate the process.

I hope you and Denise are well.

Love (Care and Aware)

Don

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“ It was he who evicted me.”  say Don,  March 30, 2011.
_________________________________________________________

From: Denise Wesley

Sent: Sunday, March 27, 2011 3:41 PM

To: Don Wesley

Subject: Divorce

Don,

We had kept this address alive to communicate with you during court appearances and to facilitate the divorce
procedures.  At this point however, I only receive harassment messages addressed to Denise and the
correspondance between you and a couple of people you know.

The money from the sale of the house is still not released because the divorce procedures have still not been
settled.  If you want this, and you don't want to deal with your present lawyers, send them a note telling them you
are no longer interested in dealing with them, send a copy to Me Adelia Ferreira (her address below) and she will
take care of the divorce procedures and releasing the funds from the sale of the house.

Following your response, I will then close this e.mail account.

Regards,

Francyne

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“ It was he who evicted me.”  say Don,  March 30, 2011.
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donwesley1933@live.com

1961 vs 2011 ~ From Sane to Insanity

1961 vs. 2011
"Author unknown" 7:42 AM 25/06/2011




Scenario 1: Jack goes duck hunting before school and then pulls into the school parking lot with his shotgun in his truck's gun rack. 1961 - Vice Principal comes over, looks at Jack's shotgun, goes to his own car and gets his shotgun to show Jack 2011 - School goes into lock down, Police called, Jack hauled off to jail and never sees his truck or gun again. Counselors called in for traumatized students and teachers.


Scenario 2: Johnny and Mark get into a fist fight after school. 1961 - Crowd gathers. Mark wins. Johnny and Mark shake hands and end up buddies. 2011 - Police called and SWAT team arrives -- they arrest both Johnny and Mark. They are both charged with assault and both expelled even though Johnny started it.


Scenario 3: Jeffrey will not be still in class, he disrupts other students. 1961 - Jeffrey sent to the Principal's office and given the strap by the Principal. He then returns to class, sits still and does not disrupt class again. 2011 - Jeffrey is given huge doses of a tranquilizer. He becomes a zombie. He is then tested for ADD.. The school gets extra money from the province because Jeffrey has a disability.


Scenario 4: Billy breaks a window in his neighbour's car and his Dad gives him a whipping with his belt. 1961 - Billy is more careful next time, grows up normal, goes to university and becomes a successful businessman. 2011 - Billy's dad is arrested for child abuse. Billy is removed to foster care and joins a gang. The children's aid worker is told by Billy's sister that she remembers being abused herself and their dad goes to prison. Billy's mom has an affair with the aid worker.


Scenario 5: Mark gets a headache and takes some aspirin to school. 1961 - Mark shares his aspirin with one of the teachers who also has a headache. 2011 - The police are called and Mark is expelled from school for drug violations.. His car is then searched for drugs and weapons.


Scenario 6: Mohammed fails high school English. 1961 - Mohammed goes to summer school, passes English and goes to university. 2011 - Mohammed's cause is taken up by the province. Newspaper articles appear nationally explaining that teaching English as a requirement for graduation is racist. Citizen's Rights Coalition files class action lawsuit against the provincial school system and Mohammed's English teacher. English is then banned from core curriculum.. Mohammed is given his diploma anyway but ends up driving a cab for a living because he cannot speak English.


Scenario 7: Johnny takes apart leftover firecrackers, puts them in a model airplane paint bottle and blows up a red ant bed. 1961 - Ants die. 2011 - CSIS, the RCMP and local authorities are all called. Johnny is charged with domestic terrorism.The RCMP investigates his parents --and all siblings are removed from their home and all computers are confiscated. Johnny's dad is placed on a terror watch list and is never allowed to fly again.


Scenario 8: Johnny falls while running during recess and scrapes his knee. He is found crying by his teacher, Mary. Mary hugs him to comfort him.


1961 - In a short time, Johnny feels better and goes on playing.


2011 - Mary is accused of being a sexual predator and loses her job.. She faces 3 years in Prison.


Johnny undergoes 5 years of therapy at the expense of the taxpayers. And to this one I would add: and Johnny's parents sue the school board for having an unsafe yard!


"This should hit every email inbox to show how stupid we have become"
"Author unknown"

("I think you have actually been mistreated by your lawyers.")

Today, is November 12, 2014, and I just checked my blog stats, to see what has been read by anyone this afternoon.
This titled one,  -- "BE warned,after filing a complaint, your lawyer may be hostile towards you." appeared."

I had just posted at noon today - "A Victim - are you or have you been, someone's Victim?"

The following email from [blank] was from a young woman who was at the University of Ottawa. She had worked for her mother who is a lawyer. [Blank], wrote me this email to help me. We lived in the same apartment building in Ottawa. Her email gave me a little hope. I replaced her name to read [blank] at her request. She said---

 

 ("I think you have actually been mistreated by your lawyers.")

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A  Logical CONVERSATION ABOUT MY DIVORCE CASE

From: [Blank]
Sent: Saturday, April 09, 2011 8:41 PM
To: donwesley1933@live.com
Subject: Discussion

Hi Don,

We met in [Blank] . As promised I am sending an email to highlight what we talked about. Please, just let me say again, the advice I am giving you should not be considered "legal". My knowledge of the law is anecdotal at  best (and then only with regards to [Blank]) and since I am not a lawyer nor have ever attend law school, I am not qualified to dispense advice of that type. The advice is mostly what I would do in this case and logical assumptions from what you have told me.

If what you said in person, and what you have written on the blog is correct, then I think you have actually been mistreated by your lawyers.

I would recommend writing to your lawyer and seeing if you can get a copy of your file as it stands now. Make sure to keep a copy of the letter and the receipt from the post office. Also make sure to include in your letter that you would like a response from him no later than ______.

Set the date for two weeks from a reasonable time for him to have received the letter. If you get a favourable response, then hopefully you will get your files quickly and you can work from there. If he says he refuses to give you the files and does not offer a reason, then you keep that letter. If he says he will give you the files after you settle your account, then do your best to settle the account and

then request the letters again. (do not use cash, check or money order only and keep a photocopy of everything)
If after you have paid the account, he refuses to give you the files, then you move on to step 2.

Contact the Law Association, or the related body in [Blank]. File a complaint with them stating that the lawyer proceeded in the matter with no input from you, without you being aware of any court dates and/or without your presence at any of these dates. They are only concerned with his professional conduct. If you have proof that documents were tampered with at the court level, (ie the pictures you mentioned) you can include those but avoid mentions of conspiracies, rather mention that you were not consulted about any of the facts put forth by your attorney.

(On an unrelated note, I am amazed he was able to do anything without you there, considering how many of those documents require your signature.)

BE warned, after filing a complaint, your old lawyer may be hostile towards you, however, you should also notify him prior to this, in writing, that you are giving him legal notice that you are withdrawing him as your attorney. Now here you may come into a little problem. The court has to know at all times who your representation is. Once you do this, you will have to file a motion of change of representation. You should be able to find the forms online and fill them out. You will now be in charge of your case.

You mentioned you had some advice from some professors, this would be a good time to get their advice on how to proceed.

At this time, if you have proof that you have lost money due to your wife's actions, slander, etc. You might have a civil case. You would need to consult with a civil litigator to see if you have a case. You might have to pay a consultation for your first appointment, this is normal. It is the cost of a first appointment. Just because you meet with him and pay his initial appointment fee does not mean he is obligated to represent you, but it does mean he will take a look at your case, get an idea of its viability, and this would be time to discuss working on a contingency basis or getting one of those legal loans for civil cases. From this point, a lawyer would be better able to advise you if you have a case.

On a secondary note, if after all this you find yourself in the same situation, no money and no legal representation. You might want to consider settling with your wife, if only to have the whole process over and done with, and to allow yourself to concentrate on getting media attention on your situation. As someone who has worked in both these industries let me warn you, any mention of [Blank],   etc. will get you [Blank].

I hope this helps. Once you get your files from your lawyer, I might be able to read them over and give you an opinion.
Sincerely [Blank]
[Blank]

____________________________________________________________________________

From: donwesley1933@live.com
Sent: Sunday, April 10, 2011 9:54 AM
To: [Blank]
Subject: Re: Discussion

Dear [Blank]
Meeting you and [Blank] is a great experience for me; thank you so very much.
I am pleased that you have visited my blog and I am happy to see your conclusions. ("I think you have actually been mistreated by your lawyers.")

I will get back to you very soon.
Love to both of you
Don _____________________________________________________________________________

www.google.com/+donwesley
  

“We forget nothing in life; unless we have brain damage.”

I wrote this a few years ago

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http://innjustice.blogspot.ca/

To my Sweetheart,

Many I meet, tell me to forget and move on!

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I reply to them “We forget nothing in life; unless we have brain damage.”

And after 47 years of knowing you I can never put you out of my mind. We declared ourselves to be soul mates before our marriage and on our marriage day. And you and I had wonderful experiences of loving one another and all our family relationships.

I was able to do extraordinary work during my life, but that ability of mine has been all but totally destroyed, by your unconscionable doings.

Moving me from my Home to Homelessness did the destructive work.

Today, as during all days past, I have real soul thoughts about you my Sweetheart Denise. 

You have hurt me, many times during the 47 years, and I have always understood and forgiven you. And I forgive you today. You did do much wrong to me!

Very unfortunately, you associated yourself at NBC with many very ignorant people and those associations finally brought on a “man-made” tsunami of devastation. You brought on a Court Case of pure evil. I am living through the devastation of those Court actions right now.

My full name, Donald John Wesley, and those of my descendants will carry forth the “John  Wesley” names:

1. Christopher John Wesley

2. Steven John Wesley

3. Michael John Wesley

 It is my intention that the true history of your “man-made” devastation will be made known to all. In compiling this history, I will reveal everything that I know to be true. The Wesley name will survive as written history.

 I was told by your family members (at your mother’s death) that you were a victim of your fathers anger; which was a traumatic event in your life giving rise to your need to kill me as Dr. Lundell predicted you would.

 I truly love you my sweetheart. It is still my faint hope that we will be together again as a family. In the meanwhile I am publishing our history as I know it to be, the only truth.



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Your loving husband

Don.

Don as School Commissioner - Montreal West Island.

I bring this forward once again to October 19, 2014

 

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Baldwin Cartier

Don as School Commissioner - Montreal West Island.

 

 

Victor Roth; is what God asks of us: Find the Evil-Devil and point to Him for all to see

 

www.google.com/+donwesley

 

A Narcissist fools everyone... for a very long time.
The Devil fools us, including me. The two are One.
He is pure Evil. He had me fooled while he worked in the Bar and served alcohol and threw drunks out late at night to sleep on the streets.

How does a man become so cruel, when  he came from a  Father and Mother who were good people; believing the wisdom of Jesus.

To my friend Victor Roth for over seventy years. You in Tiburon [California]and me in Ottawa/Montreal; communicating daily and supporting one another. How remarkable! I thought you had been reborn.

Now you will try with Your words, to hang me on a new Cross.

 

May 12, 2011

 

What comes to my mind this morning is that you didn’t “reject yourself” but you rejected what others were trying to impose on you; to be a God fearing man.

This thought about you is remarkable to me. Now I can publically rebuke you. I warned You, more than enough, in private conversations.

 

You took ownership of yourself and I am amazed at the results. You are an extraordinary success, working for the Devil.

When I reflect on your life as I have come to know you more, I am truly happy to know how you do your evil work, never ever stopping to demean the believers in God and beautiful nature and animals.

You have lived a truly good life: as the evil-devil or as Monica Dennington says "The Witch"

 

 

 

You have everything that is precious to a family life; everything that I now don’t have. You have a Home and Family and a Job that is very important to the functioning of a local community Organization, where you are recognized for your excellent work. Now to be known as a Witch.

In my mind you are what God wants you to be seen as.

Vic, please accept what I am saying is the absolute truth of what I believe should be said about you.

You Victor Roth are perfect example of what God wants us not to be.

 

Brotherly Love
Don Wesley  -  May 12, 2011.


April 19, 2015 I know more now.
He had me fooled in 2011.
His family is perfectly OK.
A psychopathic mind is His problem.
DjW

Cruel Judgements

Originally posted 2/11/11.
Re-visited  4/09/15

 

My second lawyer [more miss-leading than the first one] told me
he could not attack his own Court.

He knew that I received a negative judgement

from one Judge "That was nothing less than cruel."
and "There was nothing he could do about it"
He lied.

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Also, you should know that
 the first two judgements,
 from different Judges, gave me
exclusive occupancy of 6 Hazel Drive.

Denise with her lawyer

 was able to generate an eviction order
(ex-court)  (not a Judgement) that made me homeless.

I was unable to be in court to defend myself.

This eviction order was based on lies.

It said she was the owner of 6 Hazel

 and that I was simply a tenant.
I bought and paid for the home, alone, in 1969,
40 years earlier. I was/am  the only owner

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http://innjustice.blogspot.com/2011/02/how-are-courts-getting-away-with.html
http://innjustice.blogspot.com/2011/02/1000000.html
http://innjustice.blogspot.com/2011/02/we-hate-those-who-we-are-dependent-upon.html

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The Look of Kindness in action - Feel the Difference - Cruelty



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Quebec lawyers’ disciplinary body under attack

Welcome to my little Inn. I keeping watch over the Day-Light of what Diabolical tricks are being used in our courts of Justice;  far too many it seems.

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Quebec lawyers’ disciplinary body under attack

http://www.montrealgazette.com/news/Lawyers+disciplinary+body+under+attack/4532356/story.html

"MONTREAL - The Barreau du Québec is grappling with such a serious backlog in processing complaints and disciplinary procedures against its lawyer members that it doesn’t appear to have a firm grip on the average length of time it takes to resolve a disciplinary matter – which can often prove a years-long odyssey.


The Gazette has learned both the Office des professions and the Quebec ombudsman’s office have been probing and prodding the Barreau over its delays.


In one example, a woman’s case against her former lawyer dragged on for 17 years. In another, a businessman has gone to the courts after 28 months of frustration."

In the Superior Court case, Takefman said, “I am doing this totally myself without a lawyer. ... 

I have set up a new email at
barreaumeter@hotmail.com
where people can email their horror stories.”

donwesley1933@live.com

The unconscionable judgements override basic rights.

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---- Original Message -----
From: "Don Wesley" <donwesley1933@live.com>
To: vroth@comcast.net
Sent: Thursday, March 31, 2011 9:07:24 PM
Subject: Re: YOUR GAZETTE ARTICLE POSTED  and My reply


"MONTREAL - The Barreau du Québec is grappling with such a serious backlog in processing complaints and disciplinary procedures against its lawyer members that it doesn’t appear to have a firm grip on the average length of time it takes to resolve a disciplinary matter – which can often prove a years-long odyssey."
http://www.montrealgazette.com/news/Lawyers+disciplinary+body+under+attack/4532356/story.html

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My Reply Essay  March 31, 2011:


1.      In June 2009, from the comfort (relatively speaking)  of being in my own home because a Court Judgement told me to stay and Denise to stay out (and take her clothes only) I was suddenly evicted from my own home, offices, studio and tool shop (including storage sheds.) A home I bought and paid for in 1969. A home where we raised three boys. I was given 15 minutes to get out.
2.      A Court Order arranged by Mr. Izzonie and Denise's lawyer, gave the Bailiff the legal right to evict me. I was shocked with this experience; this was my property.
3.      Within minutes of being evicted, my wife and my son together with Francyne occupied my property and began a planned operation of emptying my belongings onto the front lawn, where any passerby could pick and choose what they wanted to take. I have pictures to support this fact. This happened on July 31, 2009. Nicky my dog was dead in the garage; poisoned a day earlier. Three days earlier I received an email death threat.
4.      I was now homeless and forced to live in my car, and to stay 100 meters away from my home, with only the clothes on my back.
5.      My lawyer Mr. Izzonie, did not answer any of my attempts to communicate with him, for more than a week. I was frustrated.
6.      Within a few hours I found a lawyer who gave me 10 minutes of his time to say I must do two things immediately to protect myself. They follow.
7.      Go immediately to the “The Barreau du Québec” and file a complaint against lawyer Mr. Izzonie. I did that the very next morning. (See my filed post.)
8.      Get a top Civil Rights lawyer for $10,000.00 to get you back into your home within 24 hours; I could not do this because I had no money available. I did have a $90,000.00 line Credit at an interest rate of $1.00 per day per $10,000 which was in my wifes name.
9.      I did not have enough money to live on the street, let alone to return to the Court for further appearances. I was in a virtual jail; my car. I begged for help.
10.    I fled to Ontario to avoid unlawful arrests.
11.    Lawyer Mr. Iezzoni, took over my case from here on, without my consent or approval.
12.    I learned, months later that the eviction was “a manufactured one” which required many changes to court records. Records I digitally photographed over the next few months, as evidence of the tampering.
13.    The consequence of all the above now gave the two lawyers the ability to tell a story (in my absence) that allowed Court Judges to sell my home and all my “Wealth.” The monies are in someone's pockets at this time. I collect no income whatsoever from this account; who does?
My lawyer has told me that there is nothing left for me and his lady associate has told me over the phone that this is the way all cases end. Mr. Iezzoni spoke to me once over the phone from Montreal while I was in Ottawa. When I asked, he said he “made all decisions for me; it is the only law he knows.”


Everyone, I have spoken to says something is very wrong!  There after I get “cold shoulders.” The RCMP says they see this happen every day.  I am being abused and my wealth has been stolen from me. My wife who started this Court process relocated to a new beautiful home, close by!


To conclude:
1.      The Gazette article shows that going to the bar was a meaningless complaint.
2.      And my going to court was/is impossible with money I don’t have.
3.      I now live in seven by ten foot room on a month by month basis. Seventy square feet is the legal minimum size of a prison cell.
4.      The Court Orders obviously did not consider my Civil Rights. They have a responsibly to do so. They are responsible to no one.
5.      The “The Barreau du Québec” is responsible to no one.
6.      Someone has what has been stolen from me. Theft is a crime.
7.      I am 78 years of age and this is Canada and I have done nothing wrong.
8.      I was Commissioned as an Officer of the Crown at the young age of 19, to go to war for Canada; where are our Rights being protected.
9.      Court Judgements can and do destroy families, every day.
10.    This not just about me; this is wrong.
11.    And remember our family Psychiatrist told me my wife would
kill me some day.

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This adds to the proof of my argument. Nobody can defend themselves in the courts when the abuse is overwhelming. The unconscionable judgements override our basic rights.

If you would like to share your story, email at the address:

donwesley1933@live.com

 

A Personal Death Threat to me, Don Wesley





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A Personal Death Threat to me, was real,

But Poisoning Nicky, my Dog

saddened me.

Then two days later I was evicted from my Own Home.

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1968 no-fault Divorce Act - Social costs of that ideology have been horrendous

It is a good time to revisit these forgotten times

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OTTAWA, November 25, 2009
http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/divorce-rates-down-for-all-of-canada-except-quebec-study/

Rushfeldt, Executive Director of Canada Family Action (CFA), said he is delighted that the popularity of divorce is declining, but attributes the blame for the "horrendous fiscal and social costs" of the 1968 no-fault Divorce Act to Pierre Trudeau's liberal ideology.

 

Rushfeldt said, "It took 40 years and almost two generations to realize the no-fault divorce, (thatTrudeau and the Liberals espoused) was harmful.

The fiscal and social costs of that ideology have been horrendous and we will continue to pay for at least another ten years.

http://www.vifamily.ca/node/783
 

Divorce racket lawyers and family court judges.

http://www.mensdefense.org/STM_Book/EffectsOnMen.htm
 

 

I brought this back once more because it is so important.

Please note, these words below are not mine,
but they so very powerful and true here in Canada also.
Don

www.google.com/+donwesley



"Marriage, which has traditionally been considered a contract of great importance to and solemn obligations of both husband and wife, capable of dissolution only for grave cause, including either serious breach or real impossibility, has in recent decades become an arrangement which a woman may terminate on whim often procured by alienation of affections once unlawful but now freely allowed.

"The process begins by a court order, issued upon affidavit which may be freely perjured without penalty, enforced without notice and hearing, and throwing the man out of his home and on the street. The female is then allowed her freedom and she takes most assets on grounds contrived, all without cause as a practical matter."

"I should add here that, while much bad legislation has been enacted, the real culprits in the final analysis are family court judges with unbridled discretion. And because their power is virtually unchecked in law and practice, family court judges are typically neurotic, cruel, dangerous, predatory, lawless, and tyrannical."

"The reason was explained by Edmund Burke when he said that power gradually extirpates from the mind every humane and gentle virtue." No branch of the American judiciary has brought so much disgrace to the bench and generated so much hatred for authority, as our family courts, the lawyers who practice before them, and the judges who preside."

"As Mr. Doyle points out effectively and clinically, a husband and a father has become a guest in his own home in the United States. He is a beast of prey who may be hunted without license at any time."


"The unhappy truth is that, unless a man links his destiny with a woman of extraordinary wisdom and virtue, marriage is unsafe and unwise."

"Many are responsible for this menace to Western civilization, but the most important culprits are divorce racket lawyers and family court judges. I have no apology to offer for my profession. We lawyers are guilty. "

"IN DEFENSE OF FATHERS, FAMILY, AND MANHOOD, Since 1971"

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WARNING! This site is politically incorrect!
Copyright © 2010 Men's Defense Association
Last modified: April 07, 2010
 

This section is written in full understanding that divorce often adversely affects both sexes, and that often both partners share blame for the death of marriage.

In almost every marriage there are many good times.  When the dreams and plans of a lifetime are cruelly, uncaringly wrenched from the realm of possibility, part of the person dies.  Although a marriage is buried, it is often buried alive.  One-sided love is a tragic thing.  Love is a great possession; its betrayal, a great catastrophe.  Sincere partners dedicate their entire lives to each other.  Greater commitment is hardly possible.  Repaying this gift with treachery is extremely cruel.  As the song goes, “A false-hearted lover is worse than a thief.”

Loss of motivation accompanies the loss of love; and people are just no good without motivation, the sparkplug of life.  Life becomes meaningless.  The loss, the pain corrodes the spirit and paralyzes the will.  Lack of a nice family to come home to has induced many a man to wallow in self-pity.  The shock of aborted love is difficult to measure, and to predict its results is impossible.  Serene acceptance, if it can be achieved, can be a blessing.  But a loved one's defection can't be simply shrugged off by anyone who was really in love.

Divorce is a world of broken promises, shattered hopes, wounded egos and empty lives.  Divorce orphans are pitiful, but adult males arguably are primary, more direct casualties, financially and emotionally.  It has been this author’s impression that most of the books for both men and children on how to live with a divorce are largely psychobabble written by muddle-heads who would expect a lobster to be content with being boiled alive.

There seems to be a similarity between the price of procreation in human males and males of some lower species.  The Praying Mantis and Black Widow spider discard the male after he has served his fertilization purpose – or kill him.  This trait is not unknown in humanoids, figuratively speaking.  His children are a man’s raison d’ être.  Loss and probable estrangement of them are among the greatest injustices that can be visited upon a human being.

Extreme heartbreak can lead to “the death of a thousand cuts.”  According to Dr. John C. Cassel, department head at the University of North Carolina's School of Public Health, divorced men have a death rate three to five times higher than married men of the same age.  Many good men have died of broken hearts, homeless on Skid Row.  The death of John Fornica, while I worked at Charlie Metz’s A$DM, is a case in point.  The DuPage County, Illinois, domestic court bears a great responsibility for it.  This anti-male redoubt refused, except in token gestures, to enforce visitation provisions of his divorce decree.  The daughter he loved too much became so brainwashed as a result that she screamed her hatred at this gentle man.  He died of a broken heart, too young, removing items from the room she had occupied in happier days.

Men without families who manage to survive are highly prone to various illnesses.  They tend to suffer severe and chronic physical and emotional illnesses.  According to a Danish study, divorced men contract tuberculosis more often than married men, ten times more often than married country-dwelling men, and five times more often than married city-dwelling men.

It has been said that divorced men are “road kill” on the highway of life.  A grim scene is widespread behind rooming house walls: a cubicle furnished in early Salvation Army, an unmade bed, a bare bulb, a soup pan on the burner, a lonely man choking down meals of crackers and cheese, and a john down the hall.  It’s dreary.  Many of us are only an accident-of-chance away from such an ignominious end.

When they are not forlornly moving from place to place, the bitter, defeated flotsam and jetsam crowd jails and homeless shelters.  Liquor lounges reap a windfall from both divorced men and women, but the latter are seldom there to cry in their beer.  Sad ex-husbands are holding down bar stools all across the country, indeed the world.  Various forms of drugs become their hemlock, gradually dulling, existence.  I’ve been there, feeling as if flung into the pit of The Creator’s outhouse during an Almighty bout with diarrhea (OK, maybe I jumped in).

In interviewing the habitants of skid row this writer found that most are divorce casualties.  The shroud of despair was every where apparent.  One could cut it with a knife.  Despite appearances, some of these so-called bums are intelligent and philosophical.  Interviewing them was enlightening, in a depressing way.  You don’t just doubt The Creator – you can hate Him.

Fearful that stress was beginning to affect my ability to control air traffic, I resigned from the Federal Aviation Agency in December 1966.  Though I returned many years later, it was a financially costly sacrifice.
 
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