Friday, January 22

To the Editor - Victims in the Family Courts

17/03/2010 10:14:09AM
Dear Editor,
Yesterday, my wife’s friend, said it could be more than a year
before the proceeds of the sale of my home flow from the final divorce hearings.

I am still homeless and still in need of re-homing. I was made homeless by a Court Order
being issued to evict me from my home and I never saw the allegations which the Court judge
used to make such an order.

My basic right to my home was denied me; a violation of my human rights and my lawyer
did nothing to stop this; instead he encouraged the process to continue, because he claimed
he knew better. In fact both my lawyer and Denise’s lawyer sat together across a table
from me and told me so, just before the eviction.

If you have ever been on a camping trip, you know you control when to pack up
and get back home again. But being made homeless without a tent and all the associated equipment is another story; and knowing you cannot go back home.
And the months go by; the season changes and you freeze to near death in your car.
This really happened to me; and I could not be in contact with my home within
100 meters, without being arrested and jailed.
A charitable citizen came to my aid; Herbert Foxwell paid for a month of motel for me.

Many more people saw the criminal neglect abuse that I was being captive to suffer.
What I describe above is violent abuse to an individual; a crime as detailed in the criminal code.
It is against the law, everyone will tell you; except when it has been framed and accepted by the family court it is not treated as a crime.
An RCMP officer at the Montréal court house told me so; he said he watched families being devastated daily by the kind of events that have happen to me, and there is absolutely nothing he can do about it.
Similarly a police officer in the city of Ottawa told me so, saying it always boils down to the sociopathic behaviour of the two lawyers involved.
They have neither conscience nor remorse for the victims and see only to their greed for the cash that will flow to them from the sale of your home.

There was in fact nothing that I had ever done or even could imagine doing that should
have given the Judge the power to evict a citizen from his home; nothing except a hidden affidavit with distorted truths.
The overwhelming power of the court resulted in 3 police cars with a Bailiff telling me
to leave my home immediately or be arrested. This happened to me July 29, 2009.
My home that I bought and paid for in 1969 which was also my studio and offices; a place where I created knowledge (intellectual property) to sell for a living.
The home, I planned to have grown around us and care for us until death did us part.
It was a family home.

However one day my wife Denise suffering from a mental ‘intra-psychic conflict’
made an irrational decision to leave the marriage, and start a divorce.
Intra-Psychic conflicts are usually a temporary disorder which can be relieved by using the help of highly specialized psychological professionals. Depending on the dominant
personality involved some ‘Intra-Psychic conflicts’ are very dangerous and deliver vindictive behaviour; enough to murder its intended victim. This not a matter for the Courts.
An Intra-Psychic conflict is not a conflict with the marriage partner.
In my intuited thinking, these happenings, are a clear result of our court system
allowing Denise’s motion to enter the court system.
This not the proper framing of the conflict! The court accepted this motion knowing it would it create unintended harm to both the parties. The parties would lose all their wealth; wealth that took a life time of work to accumulate for their retirement years would be transferred to persons within the court system.

News papers have published numerous editorial essays which have explained that this harm occurs.
At this moment in time there is insufficient public support for making changes to our society,
that will stop ‘dead in it tracts’ these kinds of abuse to families.
This has devastated me personally; and it is happening daily to family units throughout our nation.
The court system has a chain of processing operations make this happen; and they charge
you for what they call a value adding chain processing which allows our government to collect taxes on.

Think about this from another frame of view; they collect taxes to withdraw the wealth of divorcing couples; couples who had a psychological conflict, to be dealt with and nothing more.
This destructive process is cyclically going on every day in our own court system. If sounds crazy to hear this point of view, it is a truthful view of exactly what is going on.
It is useful for me to add that the Courts answer only to themselves.

Consider Key words like Court, logic, justice.They are common.
How about key words such as Court, Crazy logic, Harry Potter?

Married 46 years, living 41 in the same home and raising 3 sons I am about to enter my
78th year, on the planet in one of the most peaceful (without war) countries of the world,
but a country that allows this to happen on a daily basis to families who were free from violence but had a person to person communication problem only or an Intra-Psychic conflict of one partner.
The court is exhibiting symptoms of Schizophrenia, that is to say they don’t seem to see what damage they are doing to so many citizens by using ex-parte affidavits and sociopathic employees to issue unconscionable judgements.

Conflicts between a company employee and the company are resolved by the human resources department very quickly because unresolved conflicts destroy
the willingness to work. This human resource process is well described in books on human resource management; books I studied while in my 20’s.
But the divorce courts are ignorant of this knowledge; imagine ignorant of this knowledge.
Companies are not ignorant of this knowledge but our courts are when it comes to family affairs.
I do not blame all court employees but I am framing a view that shows the system architecture is badly flawed and it needs more than logic to repair; it needs the intuitively inspired problem solving ability.

The Science of logic, invented by Aristotle, could be used for checking truth of a statement and inferences drawn from it.
According to him, priori is the inherent store of knowledge and is beyond proof. Man inheritintly believes in it.
Posterior knowledge is based on personal experience and can be falsified due to number of errors. Logic is an instrument of thought by which truth can be differentiated from false but eventually source of untruth and limitations were found in logic also.
Logic could not discover new knowledge. It gyrates within original proposition from which it inferred certain conclusions.
Man needed something more than logic to discover new knowledge; otherwise man would be whirling round and round of his own making.
He has to intuit it from nature or his previous store of knowledge.
By this act of intuition man could not carry out extended reasoning but only jump away and beyond his previous store of knowledge.
Belief on intuited knowledge is characterized by suddenness, completeness and conviction without necessity of proof. Intuition is its own proof.
A quotation from a recognized source. Within the general population there are 4 ‘sociopaths’ per 100. According to English studies each ‘socio path’ is responsible for $50,000.00 of damage yearly.

I wrote this letter while sitting in the ‘free kitchen area’ in the Ottawa Sikh Temple, a place of remarkable social value to our nation.
A civil engineer who is doing additional studies in Bio-Mass microbiology to develop
knowledge for the new world emerging; a wise young Sikh man who lives in Toronto and has stayed at this temple which has become my office for the day. He has read and approved of this document.
“I must make myself a better communicator with greater detachment” he has humbly suggested to me. 17/03/2010 4:28 PM.

Dr Kohli, Author of Unique Master has read and approved this of this document as has, Harjinder Sandhu, Sikh Lawyer age 35 another reader approved of this document

Don's Victim Statement - Elder Abuse Torture

Revised November 27, 2015. Still without Justice, since Xmas Eve 2008.
Christmas and far from Home - God doesn't like this Crime - April 17, 1933 [Dons' birthday] The day Christ was born.
In 1933, it was Easter Monday.

Doctor Lundell; This is a picture of him. I wish he was alive today.
He is alive in the other world; the one so many doubt exists

He knew that BPD was best healed by God.
I Don Wesley took this picture of Fred.
He never prescribed  medical drugs.
He just caressed my whole family for over 11 years. )
November 27, 2015 Christmas time now.
A slightly revised Story, just short of the injury predicted by our Family Psychiatrist, Doctor Fred Lundell.  
The Divorce went through June 9, 2013.
I have yet to see a cent of my lost wealth

A song from the heart - "Ne me quitte pas"
Look this song up on YouTube...  

“Resources to Rags – An Elder’s Earnings, Stolen by Fraud in an Unjust Civilization.”
“Five Christmas Eves, away from Home”

Hi, old pal, Victor Roth,
Our time-line of friendship started in 1942, in Montreal, Canada.
We have watched each other over these years with our growing awareness of what wisdom is all about.
By making mistakes, we learned what behaviours to avoid. Without mistakes there is no learning.
This story, which I am revealing here, is about the mistakes my Family made. Mistakes which some might refer to as evil. Other names can also be used. But evil fits my foundational world-view-system of logic and intuition.
And their evil doings, leave me to suffer. The name today, given to the suffering is called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. PTSD. Years ago it had no name and therefore did not exist as far as most people knew. A subset is called Legal Abuse Syndrome; check Google about it!
My son, Doctor Steven John Wesley, a Psychiatrist, knows better but doesn’t care.
His, not-caring, is a symptom of Psychopathy. [More in another story]
He is successful and I believe very helpful to his patients, except the first.
I must say at this point that I love all my Family and Francyne; but hate what they have done to me.
I repeat that I love them and care about them and always have. I miss them. Only my relationship to God and his Son are more important to me. This is my world viewpoint. I am just about 80, and it has served me well. That relationship, has kept me wanting to fight for change in governance, which now is truly unjust. I view the challenge before me now as the biblical story of Job.
As my Family's Christian father, I have the responsibility to tell them they have made mistakes which can be called sins. When they confess their crimes and repent I will be happy for them.
[An aside] Today, in the News, the Pope Forgave his former Butler, in the Jail House.
Now, back to this evening. I was invited, to a precious small and quiet supper and coffee before the fireplace, here on College Street in Chesterville, Ontario. I was able to answer questions of my hosts, Monique and Roger; questions about my whole story of “Five Christmas Nights, away from Home” or “Resources to Rags – An Elder’s Earnings, Stolen by Fraud in an Unjust Civilization.”
On Christmas day, it will be 5, since my Sweetheart and Soul-mate was tempted away from me, by a woman known as Francyne. Somewhat like Eve, the first advertiser. Francyne, apparently thought, she is a Harry Potter hero, whose job it was to rescue my sweetheart wife, named Denise. Denise, hurting gave in to the temptation. I have become the villain in their opposing story of miss-information.
To give comfort to myself, over this lonely period of 5, I have kept in mind, the baby child who was born on Christmas Day. Like most all of us, I fall in love with Children; most especially with babies.
I think about my grandchildren; but also about the child in each of us. When we see the undamaged child in each of us, we see goodness. Undamaged children are curious but do no harm, they just learn what not to do, by making mistakes.
My hosts, sat listening to my story, with all their awareness functioning. For me as the story teller; I felt the grace of our creator, as their listening released the energy of compassion. I felt very happy to see them understanding what they found to be a compelling story. Were they compelled enough to act, only time will tell.
As an opening to the story, I told them, it was you, Victor Roth who, operating from San Francisco, found me this room, in their home to live in. It is almost two years, living with them. You my old friend did act unselfishly, to help me. For me it was a miracle.
From here, as a base camp, not home, I began to meet kind people. But for me, I am still in a State of Homelessness. Kind people really do help a suffering soul. They can help but not heal. Only justice can heal, but for me and too many others, 5 Christmas's will have passed with no justice. Our system of governance is overloaded and doesn’t work. It is unjust by definition.
You, Victor Roth, my very old friend, made finding me this base camp, possible. I found some relief from the torture I was experiencing from the unconscionable actions of my own family - "evicting me, from my very own home with only the clothes on my back." No reasons were given except the lie saying that I was a tenant who failed to pay the rent. It was someone's crazy idea, but it succeeded in working. I immediately reported my lawyer to the Bar for mis-representing me.
It was so unbelievable to me, I thought as did the police officers, that I would be back in my home in a few days following appropriate Court remedies. We had all lived in the property since 1969 and were very well known in the community.
Returning didn't happen. The Court was lead to believe the lie my family told.
I have become of Victim of Elder Abuse. I will be representing myself before the final Judge in the early new year. I will ask the Honourable Judge to turn this case over to the criminal Court. I have all the information to proceed. No police officer is needed,
The whole truth is, that I bought and fully paid for this home in 1969. Denise inherited her parents home and money and doesn't need mine. She could have all if she if she stayed in our marriage made in heaven. Heaven is only a question of mind.
A well planned crime was committed by my family. If you find it difficult to believe; find excellent explanations on You Tube.
From my Home to a State of Homelessness, my forced eviction took place July 31, 2009.
I have a medical document declaring that it was enough to make me suffer PTSD.
I am traumatized, by the criminal actions of Denise, Francyne, Steven, and Michael. All used the power of the Court to fraudulently steal my family home from me. They all appeared pleased by the success they had. To them they deserved it. They were all so charming as all psychopaths are. They were quick to sell the home. I now was seen as the evil one. The evil accusers succeeded. Steven told an RCMP Officer in Ottawa, that they had to sell the home. He will find it difficult to prove that statement now.
[As an aside] Having learned more about PTSD, I can now say with good information that it was a time of torture. It is time for all to know that I, Don Wesley [1933] am just one of the all too many in humanity who are victims of such evil, by psychopaths.
I had first become a PTSD victim as an abused child and then again as a young man of 19, injured when struck by a drunk driver. That was in 1952. I was lucky to have survived.
The symptoms of PTSD include having problems with social interactions. I withdrew from people, to the quiet of my own mind. My wife and children suffered as as result. We were all ignorant of the fact that I had a Victims problem, to overcome [nothing more] Dad, to them was just a too stern father. Denise, ignorant of the harm she was doing gave them all and more than they needed. She hid from me their criminal doings as children. I did eventually find out and was shocked by what they had done as children and continued to do as adults.
Fortunately the good times outweighed the bad. I worked hard creating intellectual know-how, which I sold to make a very good living. My family benefited as we lived within a very comfortable income.
I rebuilt business organizations to make them more successful for all the stakeholders. Many of the companies were very big. My sons did work for some of them. My success in this area led to more work than I could handle. When my work as the creator of new organizational design finished, I left each firm. Leaving was when my symptoms of temporary PTSD would return.
My military Psychoanalyst told me that Denise would kill me. I later learned she was a victim of her fathers abuse. She showed the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder; self harm. So we were a dysfunction family. Denise and I didn’t argue, she most always agreed, but did what she wanted behind my back. I loved her I gave her all the money she needed.
[Back to my Story of “Six Christmas Eves, away from Home” ]
Like the Flag Pole Protestor of years past, I cried out to all who could listen;
“Wait until morning, to see if I would leave my pole top platform  alive."
It did grab their empathy listening
Some provided a meal.  Finally a Gentleman named Herb Foxwell provided money for a shelter.
Some nights the temperature reached 23 degrees below freezing as I tried to find comfort in my car. I had no money nor friends to come to my aid. All my wealth was in my property; my Home Property. Incoming pension cheques took weeks to arrive. I did receive some help as you can see seen in other small stories, in this blog.
It was too often gasoline or food decisions. It is for me, Hell on Earth. It still is at times, when my PTSD moods shift into hurting memories. Luckily I have the knowledge of Psychological Mind Sight and prayer to recover to fond memories. Now I also have knowledge of early "Attachment Problems." I learned all this knowledge to understand why I was in this situation of man-made suffering. Was it all my fault? No it is not. I committed no crime and was a compassionate, aware and very caring husband and father. I was very worried about my sweetheart Denise. In the middle of 2000, I searched for but did not find the understanding in myself of what she needed. I was ignorant and suffering with her. She need much greater emotional support that I knew existed at the time.
I did get angry with myself; but no longer. I still love her and pray for a miracle to find us back together. I am in good health, and take no medications. Divorce does not solve family problems.
My earnings and savings were put into my property, which I had carefully planned, to be our home until the end of my life with my wife Denise, who, still in my heart is my sweetheart.
That property was also where my office, studio and tool shop were separately located. The was no need for them to fraudulently steal my home. Denise my wife, since 1964 had inherited her own property to live in.

The reason they did what they did, can only be called greed, or the need to kill me.

Don's Victim Statement - Elder Abuse Torture

A Killer Family

The financial loss is certainly over a million and more.
I started out very poor and amassed a little fortune and the Family Home.

So the story today, does not include a remedial solution; but I am told I will get my home back and that my sons, may have bought the home in 2009 and that would be fraud. There is hope however.
I have also turned over to the RCMP in Westmount, (Montreal) all information about the crimes I have identified that Denise, Francyne and my sons have committed. The Montreal Police have also been given the information.
My PTSD symptoms make me withdraw from social interaction, and my family mis-understanding is what I am suffering from. They withdrew and without knowledge, “psychologically abused me.”

To them, I was the evil one; their story continues to mislead too many. They felt the discomfort of “walking on egg-shells” as my wife said. Such abuse is a Crime, but is seldom prosecuted by our police agencies.
Why,  "Is what we are all beginning to talk about."
It is interesting to note, that today the CBC Television station News has covered the
New story with the tag name being - “ Idle No More.”
My dinner hosts quickly agreed with the following statement
“Our system of Governance has become Unjust.”
The question arising “Is it too late to save our civilization from regressing?”

Monique and Roger, are now are aware that my story is wider than, the narrower, focus of divorce.
Rather, it is a living story of
“Resources to Rags – An Elder’s Earning Escaping by Fraud in an Unjust Civilization.”
The Courts are unable to protect the Rights of all equally, “because processes are given priority over people.” Their is just too much complexity that has been added to living. It is chaotic.
I have also been able to hint an explanation of how psychopathic family members, can destroy a family and even murder a Parent.
We need, not just fixes, but revolutionary changes to our social organizations! These sudden opportunities to explain before an enlighten audience, are to me a miracle.
The subject of miracles today, by world renowned scholars is what I refer to here below:
       Denise, my wife and I met and gave birth to two miracles, Steven and Michael. Our parents gave birth to me and my wife Denise. Being miracles, we must live to be who we really are. The old question of To Be or not To be, is still valid.
The question is, will we or will we not be who we are created to be?
We all have parents and must therefore be miracles! We must get it right, I think.
For me this night, I acknowledge the miraculous people who now know my story.
I share this little story with the world on this my Blog.
I hope it will have more legs, than the fairy tale of “Harry Potter.” There are probably 7000 more stories like this tonight; will it be enough to go viral?
I confess that this little story wrote itself, using my fingers
Via the wiring of my body-brain-mind and directed by my mind of one The seeing Eye
It makes me happy to share.
Merry Christmas everyone:  from my House to Yours
Love and until soon,
Don Wesley 1933.

If You Go Away and leave Home

I used to sing this song by Jacques Brel

during our family dinners on Saturday nights with the children present and with Denise, my soul-mate and lover. Her beautiful meal and table settings! I sang from my heart and soul and with tears.

I just had to sing this song at that time. I would have some wine and they would listen.

Our Home was a Chapel of Love and Music and Compassion. A Holy Ground forever. There is a Ghost there now!

I hope to return with Joy and Happiness.

They seemed to understand that it was a ‘Holy Song from me.’ Perhaps if reminded, they would understand how they have hurt their ‘Father Today.’ I love them all; but I hate what they have done to me.

Wirtten by Don Wesley with tears in my eyes!
November 18, 2012 – Sunday Morning Sorrow!

1 Hour of Christmas Music ~ Instrumental Christmas Songs Playlist~Piano, Violin

To Denise, who became my “Sweetheart”in 1962 (June 1, 2013)

+LOVE   + LOVE   + LOVE   +God's energy  -  A Chapel Of Love

November 5, 2014 - Unveiled, transparent and to be seen and understood by the world       ----
"I used to sing this song by Jacques Brel, while in the 70's, during our family dinners on Saturday nights, with the children present and with Denise, my soul-mate and lover.Her beautiful meal and table settings... I sang from my heart and soul and with tears. I just had to sing this song at that time.
"I saw the future somehow... and would have some wine and they would listen." DjW"

Our Home was a Chapel Of Love and Music and Compassion - A Holy Ground forever. They seemed to understand, that it was a Holy Song from me. Perhaps if reminded, they would understand... how they have hurt their Father. I was born on April 17, 1933 - Easter Monday

I love them all...Christopher John Wesley, Steven John Wesley, Michael John Wesley, and my love Denise Claire Wesley

But I hate what they have done to me; there is a Ghost in the Home Now H9B 1C5. – 6 Hazel Drive – DDO. 
I hope to return and restore It with Joy and Happiness.
PLEASE TAKE a few minutes and listen to this young talent.
The following shows how a talented person can be ground-down; into depression and the spring back with the power of God; inspiring an audience. [Ji-Hae Park]

     Ji-Hae Park: The violin, and my dark night of the soul
More for my Novel about love everlasting!
"Love is misunderstood to be an emotion; actually, it is a state of awareness, a way of being in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others"
 "Oh, the Love of Children is a powerful reason to have them."

"Leave Home - Sorrow and attachment "




Adult Bullying ~ Psychopaths

Published on Dec 3, 2012

Clive is a Professor of Leadership and Organizational Behavior at Middlesex University in England. For the past seven years, he has studied the evidence and effects of toxic leadership, and in particular the influence of the presence of corporate psychopaths on various workplace outcomes, including on levels of conflict and
bullying at work.

Tim Field

I just learned about his wonderful  passionate work.It explains how my family became dysfunctional. 
God Bless Him

Tim Field (RIP) 

"Tim Field graduated from Staffordshire University (formerly North Staffordshire Polytechnic) in 1975 with a First Class Honours degree in computing science, after which he spent nearly twenty years at the forefront of computing in programming and systems support and development. His technical expertise was complemented by a commitment to user support and customer service specialising in designing and delivering training programmes for users with little or no knowledge of computing. He became a regular speaker at user group conferences around the world, including UK, Switzerland, Sweden, Australia and USA.
Tim Field Portrait
Drawing on the experience of being bullied out of his job as a Customer Services Manager in 1994 and experiencing a stress breakdown, he founded the UK National Workplace Bullying Advice Line which was first featured in the Independent on Sunday, on 28 January 1996.

Tim's Advice Line logged over 10,000 cases similar to his own. During 1996 he wrote, typeset and published Bully in sight which was the first book to identify the sociopathic serial bully in the workplace. One review said: "Thank you for writing Bully in Sight. It's like a torch in the darkness." Tens of thousands of copies were sold in 30 countries. In 1998 Field published David Kinchin's Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: the Invisible Injury.
Then, in 2001 he co-authored and published (with Neil Marr), Bullycide: Death at Playtime, an exposé of child suicide caused by bullying.

In 1997, recognising that he couldn't sustain the level of telephone demand indefinitely, he set up the web site, then called "Success Unlimited", starting with six pages in January 1998. By 2004 there were over 400 pages.

Tim believed that bullying was the single most important social issue of today, and that its study provided an opportunity to understand the behaviours which underlie almost all conflict and violence.His work inspired and influenced international anti-bullying organisations, while his personal energy, commitment and knowledge restored sanity and saved lives. He received honorary doctorates for his initiatives to stamp out bullying.
By the time of Tim's death in 2006, he had become a world authority on bullying and psychiatric injury.
His vision was for a bully-free world, and he campaigned in schools, further and higher education, and the workplace to achieve this. He lectured all over the world. His clients included individuals as well as institutions such as the BBC, trade unions, police forces and local authorities. He had worked personally on more than 5,000 bullying cases, highlighting the lack of understanding for victims. He revealed patterns showing how trade unions often failed to deal effectively with the problem among their members.
Tim Field, anti-bullying campaigner, born April 24 1952; died January 15 2006"
Read Tim's Obituary in the Guardian newspaper