Wednesday, June 29

Narcissism is an Extreme form of Self-love

Today I'm 83 years old and technology is no big amazing know how.

We still know nothing about who God is: The simple transistor was a little start, and up into a smaller space craft than earth is.

We have learned how amazing the earth is: but nothing about man-made injuries.

The 'self-esteem equation' was created by a Harvard psychologist years ago.

I try to keep my self esteem high, by taking care of everyone. Once in while you may find a project where you can make a whole organization better for all the stake holders. Projects, in need to know, find it difficult to find guys like me/us. I used to study all the time to be aware of the best knowledge available to be such a good project leader.
I studied Business law, Principles of Personnel Management, and the base knowledge of all Engineering which really is Math and Physics.
Later in life I studies Psychology. Organizational Development was a gift from God. See my IBM story in this blog collection.

At the beginning of my life my Dad told me about Jesus.
In High School, I studied the One Story of Job and the Play Hamlet.

I was always curious about crime: then I met and married a Narcissist.
This name is now used by Medical Psychoanalysts.

We brought one into our family ...... Doctor Lundell.
I and my sons went to him for about 10 years and he died.

Before he died he said... "Denise will kill you"

We needed Jesus and not just a kind and caring Doctor, who made his living until he passed on.

I needed all I studied to make many organizations enjoy the benefits of technical know-how:
the power I had to pass on technical know-how was my belief in God.


Narcissism finds its roots in Greek mythology. Narcissus was a man who fell in love with his own image when it was reflected in a pool of water. In today's terms, narcissism means to derive gratification from vanity or egotistical admiration of one's own attributes. It is seen as a form of self-defeating pride.
This is not a viewpoint that Teal agrees with. Teal explains that the most
important thing when it comes to understanding narcissism is to separate self-love from selfishness. Most people think that narcissism is an extreme form of self-love. It is not. In fact, narcissism has nothing to do with self-love. It has to do with someone who perceives an extreme lack of self-sustaining resources, like love. Compassion is necessary when interacting with narcissists. Narcissists hold some of the most painful beliefs and therefore live some of the most painful lives you can find on this earth. People often think narcissists have a high level of self-esteem. They do not. In fact, their life is a perpetual search for self worth and self-view gratification because they are very insecure.
In this episode of Ask Teal, Teal explains narcissism in depth. She then explains how a narcissist can find healing and what to do if you have attracted a narcissist into your life.