Sunday, October 26

How Denise Wesley and Don both learned to survive, as children.

Hello everyone and welcome in.
My name is Don and I'm a very kind; type of man
Sometime joking but most; too very serious
I give women days to talk; cause I don't like to interrupt them. LOL 

This is a short essay of how Denise Wesley and Me both learned to survive, as children.
[Survive together or Kill]

"The Intellect is used to destroy, Steal and Kill?"
Or "To love and recycle and rebuild."
This Story needs to be seen in my Time Line Now. It helps me to explain, the reasons why I'm alive, at 81.
I learned as a child to be fearless: which is about how we, as a child, adapt to avoid being hurt at 3,4,5 ... years of age.

Loosing parents and being adopted is one example of feeling abandoned. Another example is sexual abuse - violent.
In a good family environment the child grows and fits into the village-society more normally. Every hurt-child grows up with a 'shield' to protect them. The shield makes the child very different in the village-society and they fit in very abnormally.   My wife Denise and I, were both hurt as children. We first met as adults and were attracted to each other. We are both more sensitive than normal people. You could say were abnormal children and even more abnormal adults.
Denise is very intelligent and was quick to learn, from her Mother, who taught her, that to live and survive in a farming-region, with cold winter months, one needed to get cash money in the summer.

Don, [me] is not dumb, but had to learn quickly to survive by the minute, without his loving parents, sometimes alone for hours and sometimes left on someone's doorsteps for a meal. For a child, this is a very frightening situation. His parents God Bless, had to go work every day [The depression years in a big City]

They taught Don to pray to God, and to ask God to protect him. Don, at the very end of each prayer would say.
"God, now I going to sleep, please protect my soul, and if I should die before I'm awake, please take my soul to heaven."

He got to know God and trust God, as a child. He knows God intimately now, and the words to use with God, when he needs something like rest and peace.
 
This I learned as a child and relied that it would work.

My parents had nothing more they could give me. But they were not cruel nor did they abuse me; they did love me.

The situation however, did abused me; especially while still in a crib. This explains why my head is flat at the back. It also explains why the English were called square heads. So while awake I often was scared of the dark and strange noises. While asleep I was in the hand's of God. As I got older and out of the crib, I learned to become fearless all the time. I had pictures of me with my fist up and threatening someone. My Mother learned as young girl to show her fist to any man who got sexy.


Denise on the other hand learned that collecting pennies in the summer was needed by the family to survive thru the winter. In summer they moved out of the farm house to rent it for summer vacationers, for pennies of rent.

This was the rule of the Mothers, when boys and the father worked in the farm fields.
Don, a city child grew-up and built a castle for his city home. He needed this structure to survive. He is also very loving and fearless.
Don used his knowledge to sell Intellectual property. And Denise saved pennies using her intellect and her mother as a model was the fighter and fearless.
This is not a fairy tale Story.
People do learn to fit in normally, or abnormally. The Indian tribes it seems, had more need to kill to survive.
They needed their men, more to farm... So they used their women to fight and or die.
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